I had the perfect blog topic for today that came to me last night, but I can't for the life of me remember what it was today!
So, I have a random question about married names.
Did you take your husband's (or wife's!) last name, keep your maiden name, or did you meet in the middle and hyphenate it?
Just curious!
The thought has crossed my mind and I'm torn between taking his or hyphenating.
15 comments:
I took his name. We're sorta traditional in many respects, so it was very appropriate for us. I liked the idea of following tradition, and making life easier for our kids and their teachers in the future.
Changing my name after we were married was a pain in the neck, though. (Social security and the DMV were the worst and most important.) I still travel internationally under my maiden name, because my passport from before I was married hasn't expired yet and it's not worth the $$ to update it!
Took my husband name. Every time I have to spell it I wish I had kept my maiden name. lol
I took his name. It was never a question for me....always something I knew I wanted to do :)
SJ, Yeah, I'm doing everything untraditionally obviously LOL!
Debbs, I love spelling NYEBoy's name when we go to dinner and have to wait or something... I love his name so I want it a part of my name I just love my last name, too!
Kellie, I love his name, so I know I want it a part of my name, I just can't decide if both of our names together are too long. Mine is 6 letters, his is 9.
I never had a middle name, so I made my last name into my middle and took his last name. My last name is quirky and short (4 letters) and his is common and easy to spell. I don't mind not spelling all the time! It's a bit hard to get used to, especially since I rarely used my first name and all my friends still call me by my (old) last name.
Hmmmm 6+9 is a bit long....but not toooooo long. Do you last names flow well together?
Well, I wanted to keep my maiden name somehow, as I felt it was important to my identity and because my family is well-known in our field. I did like Hilary Rodham Clinton -- took his name as a last name and made my maiden name into a second middle name. So, my business card is Jendeis Maiden Married, but I generally introduce myself as Jendeis Married.
Jen, I like that but I want to keep my middle name because it's family name and my first daughter will share the same middle name.
I am going to hyphenate even though mine is 8 letters, and his is 7! I always want to be able to be "found" using my maiden name -- I am considering a lot of academic work, and if I ever became a published author (for example) I want the name to be still tied to my "roots": my family, town, etc. I also think hyphenation jives with the sort of bond I want to create, a meshing.
I kept mine, because my identity was tied closely to it, but don't correct people if they assume my last name is my husband's and address me that way. my kids have his name. It is short of a pain at the doctor's and at school.
I took my husband's last name. We both have extremely ethnic last names and it would have sounded weird to hyphenate them.
I didn't want to change, but I hyphenated as a compromise. If I'm giving my last name to make a reservation, I usually only use my maiden name but I don't care if I'm called Mrs. Hislastname by people who don't know.
For what it's worth I have a hyphenated last name (my mom's and dad's) and its 10 + 5 letters. It fits on all forms but is pretty long to say and spell.
Delurking to say that the thought of keeping either my father's or my ex husband's last name made me ill. I took his name!
I took my husband's name, but changed my middle name to my maiden name (I wanted to just ADD my maiden name as a second middle name, but the form only had spaces for three names. I don't know how people do it when they have two middle names). I liked that it let me keep that link to my old name, but still take on his name like I wanted to as well :)
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