Help! I need advice.
The outcome of the custody case could go one of three ways.
A) We win.
B) We lose and A has to be returned immediately.
C) We lose and A has to be returned at the end of the school year (May).
Because there is a chance we may have to give her back right away, I am seriously debating on asking my professors if I can take off next Monday and Wednesday. I had planned on coming on Friday if I wasn't too distraught (if we lose). I don't have classes on Tuesdays or Thursday.
If we lose and she goes now, spending those few days will mean more to me than any lecture at school. If we win or lose and she goes later, it will put me behind significantly and I will have missed several tests and important lectures.
Provided they ALL agree that I can take the time off, would you do it? Would you risk getting behind (A LOT--not a little!) to capture those extra memories that you will never be able to get back?
Which will I regret more? Bad grades or not getting that extra time with her?
That is the question...
11 comments:
I think you'd regret it more if you lost that little time with her in the end if you lose.
You'd be able to get caught up with enough hard work to bring up your grades before the semester is over, but you won't be able to make up that lost time with A.
If I were in your shoes, I'd choose spending time with A.
I would just wait until the case and THEN email your professers after and tell them what's going on and if you lose (which you won't) then you can tell them you have to take the time off.
You wouldn't want to miss that.
I absolutely would take the time off if they agree. Bad grades will fade from your memory. Time with her would be invaluable.
Take off! What Nikki said!
Take it off... Even if you win, you're going to need the time to talk her through this.
I cannot imagine a professor who would be unsympathetic towards the situation, so I would first talk to them, but YES, I would take the time off. Take the time with A. You will never regret that.
Ariel
What about just taking off Wednesday? It's a lot easier to catch up on one class worth of material than two. Or take off morning classes one day and afternoon classes the other day.
Take off - you have plenty of time to make up the work.
Whatever the outcome, spending time with those you love will never be time misspent. Grades are only blips in the road, eventually forgotten. Buddy up to a classmate for notes, utilize the professors'office hours to try and catch up.
Spend time with A. You can't get that back. Even after you win, you'll be glad you took the time to be with her. Path of least regret and all that.
Worst case scenario with your classes is that you'll get incompletes and make up the work after the semester ends. (My husband did that constantly with his grad and doc level classes and still ended up with great grades) You even have a legit reason for the incompletes; it's not like you're just being lazy and not doing the work.
Ask. The time you lose spending with her is far more regrettable than the class time or make up time.
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