This custody battle is hard at times. I knew it would going into it, but the waves sometimes come in when I least expect it. It's usually when we get a letter in the mail or a cal from our lawyer about a ridiculous complaint K or my father has.
When I opened the mailbox yesterday, I found two letters from my lawyer. The first one was a reminder about mediation scheduled in less than two weeks. It's court mandated. It's apparently going to take two to three hours, and they will be there. I will be trying to make a request that my father not be in the room. It's his fault my sister and I can't talk when he's around. I would just rather it be me and my lawyer, and her and her lawyer, and of course the mediator. This mediation appointment is going to be pretty pointless as far as 'working things out' goes. I'm not settling for anything less than custody. Period. I will be requesting two other things though, I want a two week notice when they will be coming in town for a visitation. With me being in school full time and the semester winding down, it's only fair that I get decent notice when they will be here requesting visitation because I have projects, tests, and exams coming up very often over the next eight weeks or so of school.
I'm also going to be requesting their phone visitation be set for certain days and times. Right now, I have it open from 6-8 every day and if we fall asleep early, or don't hear the phone when they call, I can come back to my phone and very easily have 10+ missed calls in a two hour period. Every. Fucking. Night. Plus, they aren't even talking to her because they care about her, they are doing it to "show" they are great people to care for A and to ask her questions about me to see if they can find some dirt for court. It's insane. Oh, and they fully expect a four year old to sit and talk on the phone for 30 minutes to an hour every night. They don't understand four year olds can't do that every night.
The other letter I got was requesting five things that I some how "missed" when packing her stuff up. There's a missing hat, phone, book, purse, and her personal paperwork. Here's the thing, I don't know what hat or purse she's talking about. Her phone, I accidently overlooked. The paperwork, I told her I didn't have, and I don't. And the book, was a school book, that I asked her if I could have since she wasn't in school any more, and she said "Yeah, that's fine. I don't need that any more". WTF? I know they are doing this just so our lawyer fees will rack up, but for fuck sake, just ask me over the phone about the phone. Don't sit up here and drum up stupid shit.
It ruins my day every time I come home to a letter from my lawyer. I know it's never good news. It's always more drama and more bullshit from them. I'm looking forward to getting mediation overwith so we can move on to a court hearing.