Worst 48 Hours of My Life

If you'll recall, we were due to have a big conversation with K on Monday evening after returning from our trip. A week before leaving for our trip, I told K if she couldn't get off work that she would have to find a place to stay while we were gone or she had to come with us. Why wouldn't we allow her to stay at the house alone you might ask? Well, long story. I'll get there in just a minute. Anyways, the morning we're due to leave, K still hadn't found a place to stay. I told NYEBoy she was probably trying to see if we would cave and let her stay home alone, but I stood my ground. So, she lost her job and came with us.

I knew as soon as she told me that she wasn't going to be working there any more if she didn't come in that it was going to be an interesting trip. And I was right. We didn't speak much of it, but you could tell she was pissed that WE. MADE. HER. LOSE. HER. JOB. Do you hear that internets? How dare us.

While we were there, K and I got into a little tiff about A falling asleep one night. K wanted to play the role of Mommy because we were around family and A knew this after I told her something. So, I told K it wasn't fair to me for her to do this because then A thinks its okay to undermind us. The next morning, I overheard a conversation between my aunt and K about some things and the whole way home she didn't speak much about them. I could tell something was going on, but I couldn't place my finger on it.

Once we got home, we were due to have the big conversation. K didn't know anything about this though. We were going to blindside her. NYEBoy, my mom, and I were going to talk first. Then, we were going to all talk with K. This was going to be a turning point in our living situation.

You see, K spent the entire second semester hanging out with the wrong crowd. She's a follower, which in her case, has got her into a lot of trouble. I know she's 22, but I swear the girl acts like a 13 or 14 year old.

Once school got out she started hemming and hawing about being able to get a job to work. I really didn't want her working because they were supposed to be going back to TN for the summer (before our accident happened) and I was going to need the summer to get some work done. I literally haven't worked almost at all the entire school year because I've been busy raising A and dropping off/picking up NYEBoy and K from school. Once I found out we had to spend the summer doing treatments and K wasn't leaving, I was so upset. The last thing I wanted to do this summer was take care of A while K worked for $8 an hour. But, I did. We let her get a job.

About a month ago, she started hanging out with some people at work. Suddenly, it went from hanging out, to spending every single night away from home. When she did come home, she was obviously drunk or stoned. When A and I got sick, I didn't raise a stink. K doesn't take care of A like she should when it comes to medicine so I was glad to have A sleeping with us (in her own bed--HI FAMILY MEMBERS READING MY BLOG!!) so that I could give her the medicine every few hours. Once she got well, K was still spending hours every night away from home. Then she started smoking again and stinking up my house. She was doing this for about a month or so until we left for our trip.

Monday, my Mom went out of town and didn't get back in town until late Tuesday. So, we had to post pone our conversation until Tuesday evening or Wednesday.

Tuesday night, K and I head to the store for a quick trip when out of the blue, she gets a phone call from someone and says "Yes, I graduated high school. Oh. Ok. Yeah." I ask her who it was, you know, because DUH, I always get phone calls at 10 pm asking me if I've graduated high school. Damn prank callers are so serious these days. She refuses to answer, telling me when the time is right she'll tell me. OBVIOUSLY, I'm not down for this. Tell me NOW. So, she finally tells me. She's joining the Navy.

Okay, let's read this again. SHE'S JOINING THE NAVY. Uhm. And this is coming from her deep desire to run away serve our country. Then she starts saying that she'll be gone for two years and will have to sign her rights over to someone for A, but she hasn't decided who yet. It was CLEAR I wasn't in the running. After I talked to my Mom, she called K. K told her she was leaving Tuesday, as in, in a few days. She spent the next 24 hours telling everyone this was HER decision and it was what was best for HER and HER DAUGHTER and NO ONE could change her mind. It was her choice, regardless of all the money and time we've invested in the past year. It was a done deal.

I was devastated. Hysterical. If she was leaving, I wanted them gone. Now. I didn't want to have them in the house KNOWING this was the WORST decision for A's future. Forget K, fine, if she wants to ruin her life, GO DO IT. But fuck, there's a kid involved. We talked to my Mom. And to my brother. And to each other. We all cried. None of us have slept much since Tuesday.

I promised A that we would take her to see Despicable Me Friday, so we decided we would spent Friday together (NYEBoy, A, and me) and they would take the bus back to TN shortly after midnight Saturday morning. I have two important tests next week to study for. We have find a new place to move. NYEBoy's dad is coming in town. All of this in the next three weeks, I couldn't handle the thought of them leaving every single day. So I just wanted them gone.

After spending hours talking, we decided to talk to K tonight. She had a few options. She could stay here, get her shit together, and address this semester properly. Leave, take A with her, and we would call CPS as soon as she got back to Thugboy. Leave, but her and Thugboy would sign over their rights of A and we would give them $5k each. My mom would quit her job and move in with us to get A. Our last ditch option was to let her quit school, do whatever she wanted, but stay here so that we knew A was in a good place and being taken care of. But none of this was even able to get off the paper because my brother called K.

After speaking with my brother, K came upstairs and said she was staying. I wasn't sure if I was supposed to be relieved or pissed off that we've been put through all of this. So, I asked her if she was really staying, and she said yes. Instead of hashing it out tonight, I told her we would talk tomorrow. We obviously have issues that need to be discussed, but we're exhausted.

It looks like they are staying and we just need to work through whatever is going through this girl's mind. I'm so very thankful God listened to my cries. A is going to be safe and away from harm. That was and is our main concern.

Please keep us in your prayers because obviously she can change her mind on a dime, but for now, things are safe again. Thank you so much for your support and prayers, I couldn't talk about this until we had a decision one way or the other since certain family reads my blog.

I'm looking forward to getting a good nights sleep tonight. Mentally, physically, and emotionally I am fucking exhausted.