I don't know why I feel the need to explain myself to someone who only has a blog to bypass the block on anonymous comments, especially when the statement on their post less blog says I don't care if "its your blog, and you're entitled to your feelings", if you put them out there for the world to read...prepare to get some criticisms, but I do. But, before I do, I want to preface this by saying it's very easy to judge one's life on what they choose to share on their blog when you don't share anything to the world about your imperfect life.
It all started in August when she basically said K was better off working for Walmart instead of going to get an education. I decided against defending myself then after I talked with some friends on Twitter and realized how totally wrong she is. For the record, K was working at Walmart before she made the courageous decision to move in with us. Do you think for a minute that she would have left the family and Thugboy if "working at Walmart" was working out for her? She couldn't afford a car, insurance, or a place to live. She was barely able to afford some food, clothes, and gas. How is that responsible parenting? She knew she had to change, for A. Of course getting a college degree is going to be tough for someone who got her high school diploma 9 months pregnant by cheating and having her mother do her homework, but that doesn't mean trying to get an education isn't worth it for her or her daughter's sake.
Then, she made another comment last week. She said A was acting like a brat because I took her to the movies, for the first time, at 10 pm. Yeah, I could have let them go, or let K stay at home, but we decided to try to all go. I planned out getting her to sleep 20 minutes before we were to leave, hoping she would stay asleep to and during the movies. And you know what? It worked. She didn't wake up at all there or during the movies. Some of the adults around me were louder than A. We don't have a "babysitter" and once in 8 months of being together isn't going to kill us for the adults to get some uninterrupted family time. As far as the car goes, it's not possible for them to take the car or ride a bus. They have different schedules and this wasn't the sole reason A has been cranky lately. Life for her has been this way since they moved here. It's our normal.
Yesterday, she got diarrhea of the mouth. She went on and on about how horrible the movie experience was for A, the one she slept through and didn't even know about, about how K should work at Walmart instead of getting an education, and how bad of a sister, aunt, and spouse I am. I had to laugh at the comment that I am a sponge and you can only work at home, or stay at home if you're raising a family. NYEBoy and I made the decision as a couple, before I moved down, that I would work at home/stay at home. I could work as much or little as I wanted. Before the girls moved down here, I worked quite a bit, I made powerseller on eB@y which you can't do by being a sponge and sitting on your ass. I haven't had the time to work nearly as much as I want to since the girls moved down here and I do want to but there is only so many hours in the day. Also, I worked for 10 years before moving down here, being called a sponge cracks me up. And for you to say "I brought my redneck family" down here is laughable. Anyone who has followed my blog or knows me outside of this blog knows I wouldn't "bring my family along for the ride" because it's not worth it. The girls originally came down here to move in with my Aunt and Uncle, but after seeing they weren't going to help K get on track, NYEBoy and I made the tough decision to open our home up to help K get on her feet to be able to support A on her own one day.
I think I'm doing the best I can as a sister, aunt, and spouse and at the end of the day, that's the best I can do. If you think I'm such a horrible person, stop reading my blog. Come live a day in my shoes and try not to whine about it. My life has been put on hold to allow other's to continue to grow. It's not easy, but it is what it is.
If you have a good thought/prayer to send our way, we could use it today around 3pm EST. I'll explain why later.