The honeymoon period has been over for awhile now. A few weeks ago, we had a falling out. The conversation ended with NYEBoy and I walking out of the house, slamming the door, and driving away without a word. While we were gone, we picked up a pizza, parked our car, and talked. We couldn't believe how much we had given to someone who was so completely ungrateful. We wondered if we had made the right decision by bringing them back. We wondered if the stress to our relationship was even worth it.
After we talked, we decided to call my parents. We called my dad first, then my mom. Although my dad wasn't much help, they both agreed we needed to sit down, as a family, to talk about things. When I returned home, I couldn't bring myself to sit down with K to talk to her without bringing my emotions into it. So, I didn't talk. We didn't talk. Slowly, we started talking to each other again and things were back to the way they were. But, they really weren't. The issues were still there, just being ignored.
The tension between us grew bit by bit. She stopped doing any cleaning. She would call Thugboy for help with her homework. If he couldn't help her, she would ask us, but give us a ton of attitude. If she couldn't understand something quick, which for the most part, she can't, she says she wants to give up and go back to working at Walmart. Because, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, WHO USES MATH OUTSIDE OF SCHOOL?
I've been saying for a few weeks now that I am going to talk to her. We're all adults here. Surely we can talk without screaming, slamming door, and driving away. I finally decided to talk to her. I went into her room, told her to make a list of things that bothered her about the house, us, life, whatever, and I would be back in a bit with my list, so that we could talk.
She told me she didn't have any complaints. She was just concerned about passing school. I, on the other hand, had a list of things that were bothering me/us. We went through the list together, her and I. Things were ironed out and I think we are both on the same page again, which is relieving. I'm sure we'll have more disagreements, perhaps even tomorrow, but it's nice to have this off of my chest and out of my mind.
I just need to remember, if you resist, it will persist.