Two weeks ago, we were on the moon. We were filled with satisfaction that we had done something amazing, we saved two peoples lives. Today, our heads are still spinning wondering if we made the right decision, not from removing them from Thugboy, but from taking them to 0rlando.
As I have been saying, I felt uneasy about leaving the girls with my Aunt and Uncle. I feel like they have ulterior motives that don't have K's best interest at heart. They don't seem to be worried about getting her into school, but more worried about her getting a shitty job at Walmart* or something that pays a few bucks an hour with no real future in sight.
They've told my sister what time they need to be in bed. They've told her she needs her pretty blonde hair cut. They've told her she only needs one diet coke a day. They're treating her like a child, not like a 21 year old trying to get her life back on track.
We're at a crossroad. We're at the corner of Do Nothing and Do Something. We've been talking and we're debating on moving K and A here. If no one else is going to get K into school, then I feel like we have to because we got the ball rolling.
It's not an easy decision, though. I worry about adding two new people into our already cramped three bedroom townhouse. I worry about the strain on our relationship. I worry about NYEBoy getting enough alone time to focus on his PhD. I worry about K feeling like she's a burden and her having her own space. I'm worried about the split this is probably going to cause between my family. I worry about my Aunt and Uncle deciding to take this into court over A.
This isn't what we had planned. I'm upset over the decision (or the lack there of) for K and A's future. I'm upset that we are apparently the only ones who care enough to do something about it. This isn't how things were supposed to be. We're supposed to be relaxed and at ease now. Instead, we're trying to decide what's best and what's next.
*If you work at Walmart please don't be offended. I just don't think it's an actual career path a 20-something should choose.
4 comments:
(((HUGS))) I wish that I had some solid advice for you to help yo decide on one path or another, but my brain is all spent just trying to figure out what to do with *my* sister. Thinking of you....
You did do the right thing! now you need to talk to K and find out what she thinks. I wouldn't ask her what she wants because she might now know, but ask her questions and feel her out. She is your sister and she and her future are more important then your Uncle and Aunt. No offense, I know family is important, but it seems that they aren't being very thoughtful of K here.
Sending you lots of peace and thinking about you, hon.
*HUGS*
Umm, wow. That's absolutely crazy. Telling her what to do & at that extreme!?
I think you know what the right thing to do is for you two. It's going to be hard, but it's scary for me on the outside to see how this may all blow up. And that will definitely cause a split in the family.
We took the MAPP course here locally & I'm not sure how much power your Aunt & Uncle would have to try to take A away, but it may not hurt to contact a DCF rep just to get an idea. You certainly don't want to set K up for something like that sort of attack. No funds for a lawyer & no hope for a future if this were to happen.
It sucks that these people would misrepresent their intentions & especially that they're family. I'm sorry you're having to go through this. I really am.
If there's anything I can do to help, please let me know.
I would talk to your sister and find out what she wants to do and then go from there. Like Beautiful mess said she might not know but you know your sister and can work from there. I know this has to be so difficult for you because you want to do right by everyone. I am sorry things so far have not turned out the way you planned. But do they ever? I hope that things get better soon and you get some answers. They are both lucky to have you in their lives and that you care so much. Good Luck to you! My thoughts are with you! ((HUGS))
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