As you all know, my sister has been staying with us for two weeks until she goes to live with my uncle. We've spent a lot of time talking over the past ten days or so. She told me about a month or two ago, she started having dreams about her ex. While we were in Mem.phis, we drove by his house to leave a note for his Dad to tell him to have S call us. We even found him on F@cebook and sent him a message.
S lived across the street from us. He was a very nice guy, always talking to my mom and I when he came over or while we were in the yard. He's a year younger than I am and three years older than K. He moved to Virgina when he joined the military. They dated off and on for three years. Since they broke up the last time, they both have had a child by someone else. If K ever talked about the family not liking Thugboy because he was black, we always responded that his race had nothing to do with why we didn't like him. We didn't like him because he was worthless, lazy, and a punk. If he was more like S, we wouldn't care.
On the way home from the beach yesterday, K told me if S still had his life going good for him and he proposed to her, she would say yes. If he was happily with someone else, she would feel at peace with that, too. She said it was up to fate to get them back together. If they were meant to be together, he would contact her.
My dad told me on the phone the other night that S had been calling trying to get a hold of K. I asked if I could have his number to talk to him. My dad refused, saying it was not in her best interest, despite me saying *I* wanted it to talk to him. Meanwhile, I got a reply back on F@cebook last night from S. He is single and does want to hear from K. He gave me his number telling her to call morning, noon, or night.
Now, I'm not sure what to do. Do I call him on my own to talk to him to see where he is in his life? Do I give her his number to have her call? Do I intervene with fate, like my father is doing, to keep quiet? I know if it were my ex, I would want to talk to him. Whether it be for closure or a new beginning.
What would you do if it was your sister?