Dear Elizabeth Cohen*,
While I was watching CNN yesterday, you and Alina* talked about the Octuplets that were recently born. Alina asked you if this was normal or did the couple use fertility drugs. Your response to Alina left a bad taste in my mouth. I'm paraphrasing, but you said something like "No, this is not normal. Let's be honest here, this wasn't about a husband and a wife who love each other". As an infertile, I know many, many men and women who have had to go through treatments, and there is no doubt in my mind that these couples love each other.
Do you know what it's like to go month to month not knowing if you'll ever be parents? Do you know what it's like for those months to turn into year after year? Do you know what it's like to pop pill after pill in hopes of getting pregnant? What about shot after shot? Do you know what it's like to have to write checks or hand over cash in large amounts still not knowing if you'll become pregnant, stay pregnant, and deliver a healthy child?
The love between an infertile couple is astounding and your response was pathetic. Take some time and read the blogs from over a thousand men and women and tell me they don't love each other.
Sincerely,
In Due Time
* I am not familiar with the day time anchors, but this conversation was around 2pm yesterday and after looking online I think these were the two ladies. My apologies if it wasn't, but I'm 95% sure it was them.
6 comments:
Ditto! :)
ICLW
They actually said that??
Okay, I don't agree with taking risks of HOM, however I am incensed that they used that statement!
ICLW
OMFG.....unbelieveable!
You tell them!
The fact that DH and I are STILL together 10 years down the ttc track show JUST HOW MUCH we love each other!
Sometimes the stupidity just abounds...
I don't mind if you link me. It was sweet of you to ask!
Wow. I'm really surprised by that. I WILL take the devil's advocate position and say that I think IF leads to the temptation (not the least in me) to view a child as a goal for the parents (want to be a mom, be pregnant, have a baby, do this or that like everyone else) rather than as an individual person precious for his or her own sake. I think that's where an idea of "conceived in love" comes from. And obviously that's a temptation we all have to fight. But, of course, children conceived by fertile people are often objectified too - the "one perfect child" or whatever that people have just because other people are. It makes no sense to conclude a child was not conceived in love just because medical intervention was necessary, let alone just because there are eight of them. That could be caused by a whole host of things. Lack of love doesn't seem to be on the list.
Incredibly Insensitive and Rude multiplied thrice, that's what it appears to be!
And I am sure those ladies have kids!
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