Last night we had our first big fight, hence the lack of post. A few weeks ago I asked if I could switch my office and the bedroom because the bedroom is twice the space of my office and I am over run with inventory. It's taking up space in my office, hallway, bedroom, and living room. If I switched rooms, it would all fit in one room, and my house would feel like a home, not a storage facility.
NYEBoy reluctantly said "okay", but changed his mind after I switched everything except the desk. I was pissed. His reasoning behind it, to me, is fucking ridiculous. There is plenty of room in the office room for a bed and TV, plus it has two closets. It basically came down to his OCD. Whatever, our house will continue to look like a damn storage facility, but his OCD will surely have the bed where he wants it.
I was, and still am, very pissed off about it.
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We hate big fights, don't we?
We especially hate communication that we THINK is handled, only to find that Mr. uncommunicative didn't bother to spill his REAL feelings on the matter until we had gone a whole new direction based on what he had told us and what we thought was handled.
Men. You can't live with 'em, you can't kill 'em.
Wanna know what helped me? I listened to Dr. Demartini on you tube ... search for "values" ... people are doing the things they do not to bug us but because they are living from their values. The battles ease up when/if you are able to communicate to them in terms of THEIR values.
I certainly haven't mastered it, but understanding this principle has really helped me understand my husband, who bugs me less than he used to since I learned this "value" thing.
p.s. I found you at Amazing Trips. I hope you don't mind that I stopped by. I liked your blog name and the curiosity sucked me in.
Wait ... search for "Dr Demartini values" ... not just values ... or you won't find Dr. Demartini at all. I have heard him speak twice and I really think he GETS it.
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