Oh hon. I want to tell you all of those things, but never having gone through a messy breakup/divorce, I can only say: Hang on. Things *do* get better.
And even not having experienced your trials, I can tell you, yes, you do deserve better. Hugs. -D.
It sounds like you have done all you can, in terms of trying to talk to him and getting him to see your side. I have not gone through this myself, but from what I hear it definitely does get easier over time. xox.
I went through a painful breakup w/ my high school sweetheart. For a long time, I wasn't happy in the relationship, yet I kept pushing to make it work. We were together 3 years. We broke up over Memorial weekend and I had a really rough time. Four months later, I transferred to a four year college and moved in next door to my now-husband. Within two months of meeting each other, we were together. Nov. will be 12 years that we've been together and he's still as sweet to me as he was that first day. Also, if anyone had told me during the breakup I would feel better in six months I wouldn't have believed them.
Big things I learned - 1. my friends and family hated my ex, not because he was a bad person, but because of how he treated me. 2. I wasted so much energy being pissed at him all the time and complaining about him to my friends. 3. My family and friends love my dh and people comment on what a good man I have, I never have to make excuses for him or try to sell him to them, they see he's good to me.
You do deserve better, and if you stand up for it, you will find happiness. But yeah, it totally sucks at first.
I know you are probably tired of hearing this but really it WILL get better. You are a strong person to be able to go through all of this, keep telling yourself that. I too went through a painful break in my early twenties ( i'm 32 now) and it hurt but I learned that I deserve better and would not settle for just anyone...it worked cause I met my husband and he's a great man. I'm glad I got rid of that dirtbag when I did.
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Oh hon.
I want to tell you all of those things, but never having gone through a messy breakup/divorce, I can only say: Hang on. Things *do* get better.
And even not having experienced your trials, I can tell you, yes, you do deserve better.
Hugs.
-D.
It sounds like you have done all you can, in terms of trying to talk to him and getting him to see your side. I have not gone through this myself, but from what I hear it definitely does get easier over time. xox.
It does get easier. Keep telling yourself that.
You're a strong girl, and you've made it this far.
When times get hard, and he tries to talk to into staying - put your chin up, be confident, and confide in yourself that you're doing the right thing.
You're a great person, and deserve to be treated like a princess. Got it? Turn that frown updside down... you're moving in the right direction! :)
I went through a painful breakup w/ my high school sweetheart. For a long time, I wasn't happy in the relationship, yet I kept pushing to make it work. We were together 3 years.
We broke up over Memorial weekend and I had a really rough time. Four months later, I transferred to a four year college and moved in next door to my now-husband.
Within two months of meeting each other, we were together.
Nov. will be 12 years that we've been together and he's still as sweet to me as he was that first day. Also, if anyone had told me during the breakup I would feel better in six months I wouldn't have believed them.
Big things I learned - 1. my friends and family hated my ex, not because he was a bad person, but because of how he treated me. 2. I wasted so much energy being pissed at him all the time and complaining about him to my friends.
3. My family and friends love my dh and people comment on what a good man I have, I never have to make excuses for him or try to sell him to them, they see he's good to me.
You do deserve better, and if you stand up for it, you will find happiness. But yeah, it totally sucks at first.
I know you are probably tired of hearing this but really it WILL get better. You are a strong person to be able to go through all of this, keep telling yourself that. I too went through a painful break in my early twenties ( i'm 32 now) and it hurt but I learned that I deserve better and would not settle for just anyone...it worked cause I met my husband and he's a great man. I'm glad I got rid of that dirtbag when I did.
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