After reading a few blogs over the weekend and talking with my Mom this evening I have a question. Why is it that the outside world looking in looks at us an automatically gives us the title 'obsessive'? I tend to think at times I am obsessive but not a stalker-obsessive, which is the type obsession people mean.
My Mom told me today for the umptenth time that people are infertile because "They try too hard", "Want kids in their life more than God", etc etc. She asked if infertiles are obsessed over kids even more after they finally get one. What the fuck? I think we are harder on ourself and want 150% what's best for our child but I wouldn't call it obsessed. I would like to say that we have been down one long-ass-bumpy-as-fuck-curvy-no-that-way-turn-around road, so we apperciate things differently.
I really need to learn that my Mom will never get it. Will I ever get that?
Hugs go out to Meri-Ann.
5 comments:
Your mom's comments made my skin crawl... I'm sorry, hon. My mom doesn't get it either.
(((Hugs))))
-D.
It's unfair that people who are obsessed with work are called "driven" and "motivated", but we who are driven and motivated to have a family are called "obsessed" - very unfair. BTW - I feel like in order to navigate through the adoption process, I HAD to become obsessed - with all the paperwork and process, it was impossible not to!
Thank you for reading my blog, and for you kind comments. I hope you become a mom soon!
I am so sorry that your mom doesn't get it. I can't believe she said those things to you. I think that I would have lost it.
Don't get me started on the whole "God" thing. I'll be here all night.
Urgh....coming from a chick with mom problems they never learn or get better. It just moves on to something else for them to critize.
It is soo hard to ignore moms. Sooo hard.
But try to. Or yell and scream and blog about it and get it out so you can be civil to her face, that is what I do.
-J
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