Yesterday we went to my Grandma's for our fourth of July celebration. Ribs, burgers, beans, potato salad, fresh veggies, everything that a good southern cook out requires. We ate, and ate, and ate a little bit more. The men ad one of my aunts went into the living room while four of us (two aunts, grandma, and myself) played cards. While playing cards we were discussing M and I finally getting married and getting close to setting a date. (Yes, we are doing everything backasswards.
One of my aunts says to me "But I thought he couldn't have kids, why are you going to marry him?" It came from left field. Mainly because I don't ever remember talking about us having trouble concieving. I am not quite ready for the cat to be out of the bag and discussing it with the entire family as I know the shit they will give us for not being married yet. So to not be caught off guard I threw back "Well It's not just him, it's probably both of us". She then kept saying "But I thought you wanted kids, what are you going to do?" Um. Let's see. DoH!
I can't believe she thinks because of a reproductive issue we wouldn't get married. I know children is something I want more than life itself but I would never not marry him. It's not like he's a druggie or something. This is out of his/our control.
People can really be fucking stupid.
3 comments:
I can't believe that your aunt would say such a thing! People can be so insensitive sometimes. I am sorry that you had to go through that. Hugs.
Sometimes people say stupid stuff. I couldnt imagine divorcing Larry if I found out he was infertile. Sorry you had to go through that. Have a great one.
How incongruous. They think you should be married to have kids, but approve of you 'testing the goods' beforehand, so to speak.
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